Comments on: How to Be Authentic with People Who Love You but Don’t Understand You – Part 5

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Leslie Rinchen-Wongmo » Blog Archive » Home again — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 19:33:16 +0000

[...] 1. An introduction 2. Stop demanding that people understand you 3. Stop asking people to give you what you won’t give yourself 4. Stop asking people to give you what they don’t have to give 5. Stop robbing people of the opportunity to grow [...]

By: Ken Robert

Ken Robert — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 03:49:50 +0000

Fun is key.

By: oddFrogg

oddFrogg — Mon, 27 Jul 2009 02:14:30 +0000

Beautifully put. Thank you!

My little business is just getting off the ground. It’s my creative outlet and neurons are firing that haven’t been fired in a while. Even if I never make “a go” of it, I’ll do it anyway because I’m having so much fun.

Please keep doing what you do.

By: Donna

Donna — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 13:18:40 +0000

Wow, I really loved reading this series! I’ve always been the “oddball” in my family. The boat-rocker. =) My mom spent alot of time trying to get me to be a good little girl and do what she wanted me to do. I remember a few years back my husband saying, “why do you have to be so rebellious??” and I remember feeling shocked – because I wasn’t BEING rebellious. I was just being ME. But by being me, I was viewed as being rebellious…it just made me more determined to be me because…rocking the boat is what *I* do best! =)

Thanks for taking the time to share all of these great articles!

Donna

By: Ken Robert

Ken Robert — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 04:18:46 +0000

Thanks, sis. Hope all is going well in the land of Life and Work by Design.

By: Jane

Jane — Sat, 25 Jul 2009 04:00:43 +0000

Damn, when did you get so smart? I finally had time this evening to sit down and read this whole series and I’ll re-read some parts again tomorrow. This is excellent , Ken. I think creative people are especially guilty of wanting to be understood and feeling rejected by their family members when they are not. Only those we love can hurt us and they frequently do. All five of your directives are correct – we must believe in ourselves first and foremost – others will follow as we grow. Great advice!

By: Dee Relyea

Dee Relyea — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 16:08:23 +0000

Ken, I absolutely loved this article! You hit the proverbial nail on the head; so many of us hide our gifts and talents, we damp down our natural self and adopt behaviors to please others. Your statement, “anything less than your best is theft” is a powerful reminder to push past the fear of rejection and just be who you are. Thank you for sharing your words with us! With graditude, Dee

By: Della Pitre

Della Pitre — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 14:44:32 +0000

I agree with Derek on this one too…it spoke volumes for me as well! Thanks for getting your message out there for us, Ken…you’ve really given us a lot to mull over…because of you…we will be growing!

By: Ken Robert

Ken Robert — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 13:12:45 +0000

Thanks Derek, I actually think the one about not asking for things that you won’t give yourself is the best in the series. I’m glad it spoke to you.

By: Derek

Derek — Fri, 24 Jul 2009 13:08:29 +0000

Ken, great series. I found them all really insightful. When I read the your statement “Don’t ask them to see what you don’t see yourself” I felt you’d cut me to the bone and beyond. This is something I’ve been doing, asking them to believe in something I have doubts about. Most of the rest of it I had already started to work on, but that one, somehow, somewhy, was one I’d missed. Thanks for reminding me that in order for me to have other people believe in me, I have to believe in myself.