Comments on: The Trouble with Right and Wrong

By: Tara Mohr

Tara Mohr — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 16:57:39 +0000

Hi Ken,

Once again your words strike a chord with me. I think about this subject a lot as well. I love learning. I want to be enriched by other people’s wisdom and great ideas. Sometimes I get stuck and I want advice or feedback from people I trust.

And yet…I have to filter all of it. Not in a spirit of what’s right and what’s wrong, but with a sensitivity to what’s right for me right now.

I still seek input, but I’ve gotten better at remembering that advice really only reflects the experience of the person giving it, and that I need to feel out whether its right for me, or run a little experiment to see.

It’s funny you post this now, because I just had a similar experience to the one you had with your twitter handle. I sign all my blog posts “Love, Tara.”

Writing those words is quite honestly one of my favorite moments of writing…when I feel the piece come to a close and I connect to the spirit of love with which I’m writing, the caring I feel for everyone who is reading. It’s my signature, in the deepest sense. It’s part of who I want to be to my readers.

This week a widely read blogger who I respect advised me to stop signing my posts “Love, Tara” because, she said, that read like an email and not a blog post. I really appreciate the advice, and the intention, and know for sure that changing this is not right for me, right now.

Big picture, I think what comes out of human beings, when they are being authentic and walking on their own creative path, is far more powerful and interesting and stunning than what general advice and “the rules” could guide them toward.

Love,
Tara
.-= Tara Mohr´s last blog ..Reclaiming Lost Loves =-.

By: Ken

Ken — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 15:45:17 +0000

I think there’s a need to use both. Our intuition really can mislead us because some truths are counterintuitive. That’s one of the reasons the scientific method is such a powerful tool.

But I think there are times when we’re trying to determine right from wrong when they simply don’t exist. Ice cream flavors, creative processes, and Twitter usernames come to mind.

By: Dovelily

Dovelily — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 14:56:16 +0000

Well, supposedly my gut and my brain are the same age, but for some reason I tend to follow the the “logical” brain instead of listening to my gut. Later on, I often find that my gut was dead on in its perception of the situation. Why, then, is it so hard to listen to the gut, when your experience tells you that your brain may not have it all figured out?

By: Ali

Ali — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 14:00:39 +0000

I’m finding that giving up labels [labels others have placed upon me or those I've given to myself] is proving to be one of the most difficult things I’ve ever done. It’s amazing how tied to labels our egos are.
I’m completely with you on trusting your gut, by the way. Your gut pretty much never gets it wrong.

By: Helen

Helen — Fri, 26 Mar 2010 07:00:39 +0000

I’m with you!! Labeling and judging things good or bad, right or wrong, etc., highly overrated. There’s room for lots of ways of doing something “right”!!
We experiment; we risk failure and sometimes we “fail. If, tho’, we’re paying attention, rather than beating ourselves over our perceived failure, we learn something that we can take with us into the next venture.
.-= Helen´s last blog ..I’ve not shown up for many days =-.